Fear

– Rejection & Fear –
“Courage is about doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.”  —Eddie Rickenbacker 

It’s a scary thought isn’t it?  Rejection has dictates so much in the span of your life.  Everybody wants to be accepted… they want to belong.  There is so much fear of not being accepted, it causes people to lose touch with their common sense and to do stupid things.  I know I am undoubtedly guilty of that.   But in recent weeks I pose the question.  Why?  

Why does rejection strike fear into the very essence of our being.  Fear of failure has been prompting mankind to a stagnate state lacking any real initiative since the dawn of the human brain.  The moment that our race started connecting emotion to action and no longer just survived on the basic needs… fear of rejection and failure has been crippling us. 

Why do we do this to ourselves?  Seriously.  What is the harm in applying for that job even though you don’t think you are the best qualified?  Is someone going to hunt you down and call you out because you tested the waters?  

Why not ask out that attractive girl in the curly hair, green shirt, and purple purse?  What’s the worst that’ll happen. She’ll say no?  

If you regret a decision, what is the harm in trying to make amends?  Talk to Her.  It can be any worse than her telling you to “Fuck Off” and that she hates you now.  At least you know. 
Or Vice Versa, someone else made a decision, you still don’t agree with.  Talk to them, maybe they feel the same way?  Who knows? 

How about get up in front of the bar and sing a tune at karaoke?  Big deal if you suck or not, it’s fun.  What’s the damage in this?  A few drunks will laugh… chances are not even remember it the night before. 

Rejection.. embarrassment.. Fear..  These are like debilitating diseases that everyone suffers from.  There are people who claim that they are not afraid of anything… hell I am one of them.  But, that is always a lie.  I am afraid, I’m deathly afraid of some things.  Rejection used to be one of them.  

I’m afraid that I will fail.  That someone will come to me and need help, and I will not know what to do.  I’m afraid one of these times I will not say the right thing and I will lose someone. 


Fear is a motivating tool.  No human being is without fear of something.  

The true measure of a man is how he deals with the natural human weaknesses, like that fear of rejection. 

I’m 24 years old and I spent about 23 years scared to death about what people might think of me, and worrying about not being embarrassed.  It’s not something I am completely over… I still won’t do any shirtless activity.  Swimming for example is something I once loved to do, and now I just don’t enjoy it.  And no it isn’t even something that someone can fix and say “lets go at night, no one’s around”  I legitimately conditioned myself to where I do not enjoy swimming. 

You can’t live your life not attempting because you might fail.  It’ll lead to a stale, boring life.  Take chances… be embarrassed.  It’ll do you some good. 

If you want to get something, reach.
If you want to do something, try
If you want to be something, BE. 

There is no simpler way to describe life.  You should not be bogged down with aspects like fear.  To be rejected is not the end of the world.  

It Simple as that.  It’s just life that complicates it. 
Stop Being Afraid And Do What You’re Thinking!

Pictures From Deviant Art
Rejected by PapercutCherry
Rejected by SuchaDream

 

She’s Just A Woman

… FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

You have no idea how livid I am right now, amplified by the fact that I am stuck behind my desk in the office because I can’t afford to leave.  Who would’ve thought that in the time between right now – 10:05am,  and my previous post, that I would have found something to rant about.   

Controlling and Demanding Significant Others.  –
Disclaimer:  I am aware that this occurs in both male AND females.  It is not always the male that is the domineering party in a relationship but since the particular case that sparked this rant is.. I’ll use males as a generality.Why?  Why is it that an absolutely incredible girl can be so controlled.  How is it possible, they are gorgeous, intelligent, and yet completely submissive to someone who tells them day after day that they are a waste of life.  She is one of the most extraordinary women that have entered my life, I owe a lot of who I am to simply knowing her in my younger years, and yet I am powerless right now to help.  He makes her feel like scum, and she wont listen to reason or allow me the opportunity to get in and show her how great she is.  

I know how it works.  Having this discussion with a very good friend of mine who has been in her position fairly recently, we discussed how it’s a mindfuck.  This guy has the girl-in-question completely beaten, psychologically.  She legitimately believes that she isn’t worth a damn and that her life is absolute agony.  

Being on the outside it is hard for me to empathize with her viewpoint.  She’s got a great job that would be more than enough to provide her with a good life and financially security, if she didn’t have to waste a LOT of money going to see that asshole.   

The things that he says to her, the way he treats her… I really want to cause a great deal of bodily harm to this man.  I know how the situation will be resolved, I need to find a way to get her to start having some confidence in herself.  She is such an unbelievable person I can’t believe that it would be so difficult for her to see it.


I am worried.  Very worried about this girl.  There is nothing I want more in this world than for her to listen to me and get out from the control of this prick.  I know I have hurt people in the past, especially girlfriends, but other than a temporary insanity with Danielle, I don’t believe I treated any girlfriend wrongly.  It may have ended, but at all times I tried to do what was right for them.I am pretty certain that I am going to be convicted of Murder is anything happens to her.  Although she will swear up and down that he has nothing to do with it and it is simply her own fault and her own problems.  I know differently.  There’s a reason why EVERYONE blames him m’dear.  It is because HE is doing this to you. Love is the most dangerous of all emotions.  It can provide the most intense feeling of warmth and belonging… it can actually be a strong foundation and a reason to live.
Unfortunately, when it is wrong.. not reciprocated it can be agony.  When you are in love with someone and they don’t love you, it can tear your world apart.   

But then we have the Love or the wrong person.  This is the case that I am ranting about.  When you are love with someone, and they realize it and exploit it.  This guy knows that he can do and say whatever he wants and she’ll just sit there and take it.  He can break up with her and tell her to go to hell and die… and she’ll just run back and beg him to stay…. He’s an asshole.  I have not felt such an intense hatred of a man who I barely met until now.  


If you find yourself in such a situation.  Please, I implore you to take a step back  and look at what you have.  Never let a boyfriend/girlfriend decide how great or shitty your life is.  That is entirely up to yourself.  If you think you are worthless, then ignore the boyfriend/girlfriend and anything associated with him/her and then look at whats left.  I’m sure it isn’t as bad as you thought.  Even if you step back and see that there’s nothing left (which is sometimes the case if you spend every waking moment with the man)… that just means you have so much room to experience things. Never judge yourself based upon the opinion of anyone but yourself.  Too many people emphasize how others view them and let that dictate their actions.  I am guilty of this myself at times, but quick to resolve it once I notice. 

You are who you are… you can’t help that.  Sure, if you are a douchebag you can learn to be considerate, if your selfish you can learn generosity… but at the core you cannot change who you are.  The only time someone can change is if they are doing it for themselves, not at the request of someone else.

~There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.”  —Douglas Everett

– Newfie Ranting –

-rant-

 -verb (used without object)
1. to speak or declaim extravagantly or violently; talk in a wild or vehement way; rave: The demagogue ranted for hours.
–verb (used with object)
2. to utter or declaim in a ranting manner.
 
–noun
3. ranting, extravagant, or violent declamation.
4. a ranting utterance.
Origin:
1590–1600; < D ranten  (obs.) to talk foolishly

 
This is what it is all about.  It is going on 3 months since my enlightening epiphany that helped me get to where I am right now.  I have ranted on Facebook once since this revelation and it was simply to say, “Hey guys, life is still good.” 
 
When I was done, I thought that there was a lot more that I had to say.  Nothing significant to anyone elses life, but topic matter I wanted to discuss none-the-less.  So the answer became clear, as a journalism student I will be required to have a blog next semester anyway so why not start now with my own personal endeavour into the world of online blogging.
 
If you feel the need to comment, you are more than welcome to do so. . . If you feel the need to keep reading that’s cool too.  I don’t really care if anyone sees this or not, I’m mainly doing this for my own self as an experiment.
 
Life seems to build up within me and it usually gets to a breaking point where I need to vent everything or I will self-implode.  With this, I will be able to vent periodically, that way there is no fear of emotional fallout ruining my demeanour. 
 

 

So the first entry is on the way…